Why Can’t You Stop Thinking About What You Don’t Want to Think About


You’ve been through this. Perhaps you’re still going through this. You’re thinking about this one thing, probably too many things. Maybe something that made you feel sad, made you feel awful you just want to forget it but ironically you keep thinking about it. “Why am I still thinking about this thing that I just want to forget?” you ask yourself. It hurts, doesn’t it? It strikes so bad you just want it to stop. But your mind keeps on thinking about this one particular thing. You try to do something else. But from time to time, this thing just keeps popping up in your head.

How is this possible?
It’s a battle between your conscious and subconscious mind.

Wherein your conscious mind knows what you actively want, here and now– in this present moment, your subconscious is more powerful than that. Hear me out:

Your subconscious just sits behind your mind, yet it knows everything. It is the part of your mind that knows who you are deep inside. Your wants, your desires, your favorite book, your most awaited TV series’ latest episode, your morning habits and what you think about before you go to sleep.

You see, your subconscious is like your best friend who knows you very well, only it knows you even better. And it can control you if you allow it. And here’s the thing: Your subconscious mind is used with you thinking about this one thing before. Repeatedly. Maybe it was something that made you the happiest, or something that made you feel safe. Something that you treasure the most. Unknowingly, you created the habit and your subconscious did its work to embed it in your system. Your mind knows that it’s important to you. You deny it now, but it will take you a lot more of self-convincing before your new opinion, standing, and affirmation about this thing become a reality.

You see, it’s more than that.

Now you must be asking, how? How can you counter that? Why is moving on so hard to do?

Please listen when I say: keep moving forward. Yes, keep doing whatever it is you’ve started doing to move on. Keep meeting new people, keep working so hard, keep loving yourself– giving yourself the love it needs and deserves, keep accepting yourself and the fact that this one thing is not in your life anymore. I may not know whose fault it is, but hear me: Let it go.

Let the pain go. You’ve suffered enough. You’ve tried hard enough. You’ve cried out enough.

And I say it again: Keep moving forward. Even if it’s hard, even if it hurts, even if it still pops up in your mind.

After some time, your mind will get used to your newly created system. Your mind will accept the new lifestyle. Your mind will get that you are finally living a new life, and no matter how much it resists you at first, after some time, your mind will surrender to you. Remember this: you will be fine. Maybe not now, but in time.